Lesson 5 Preparing Yourself for a Prayer Partner

Praying Together 

Preparing Yourself for a Prayer Partner

 Lesson 5

Preparing Yourself for a Prayer Partner

We should desire to be prepared to be a prayer partner.   When we are, we can encourage someone else because the Love of God constrains us. II Cor 5:14.


A key purpose of having a prayer partner is:  To encourage your prayer partner in the Lord.  Heb 3:13 (KJV) “But exhort one another daily…” 

We need to understand there are factors that affect relationships and praying together is a form of relationship.

Let’s start by examining what roles affect our Christian relationship.  In building a prayer relationship with others, we should focus on the role of God’s Holy Spirit:

  • The role of the Holy Spirit role is to be a comforter, coming alongside of us, to guide us and to bring comfort to us.  If God, through His Holy Spirit, comes alongside of us, it is the example to us that we should also come alongside of prayer partners and encourage them.   Therefore our role should be to do what God is doing for us.   In essence we should partner with God, reflecting God’s love and compassion in encouraging others..  There is a song we may have learned as children that goes hand in hand with what we are talking about:

When we all pull together, together, together

When we all pull together, how happy we’ll be.

For Your work is my work

And our work is God’s work.

When we all pull together, how happy we’ll be.

(note:  Pulling together is very important)

With this approach in mind, we should ask ourselves a question about our motives in praying with someone else, because if the motives are not in line with God’s Word, they can block our following God’s example. A question in looking at motives that we should consider -- Is having a prayer partner about ourselves—our “personal needs”, or do we really want to join together with others in a way that can encourage them?  If we do want to join together with others in prayer, then why not ask the Lord’s help in following His example of encouragement? See: Phil 2:1-5:  If there be therefore any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies.  Fulfill ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind.  Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.  Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.  Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus.

Now let’s move forward and look at personal preparation for praying with others.  There are two steps: 

  • First we should invite God’s presence and His Holy Spirit to identify to us personal issues that have prevented us from effectively praying for others.  Then, seek His wisdom how to overcome them. 
  • Secondly, we need insure that our heart lines up with God’s word.  This is best done by spending regular time reading and studying God’s word. 

Moving forward in preparation in praying with others, let’s look at some common issues frequently faced about prayer, and look at what God’s word says:

  • When you pray with others, are you afraid to be open?

Is our fear of being open rooted in our struggle to keep our feelings private?   Are you afraid to share problems, such as ones that are very personal?    

God’s word does say: “confess your faults one to another, and pray for another that you may be healed.”  James 5: 16  It is easy to say that verse, and many of us have encountered issues from other people when we have opened up about faults.  If God says to do it, then God will find a way to help us obey his word.   .

  • Do you feel responsible for answers to prayer, as though they depend on you?

God’s word tells us that God’s job is to hear and answer.  I John 5:14-15 It is difficult to do that when we have learned to control our destiny, or at least try to.

  • Do you feel you can’t pray good enough in front of others?    We should not be praying “to be seen”.  We should be praying out of a heart concern for others.  I Sam 16:7 says God looks on the heart. He is the one we want to hear our prayers. 

Getting into God’s Word and putting it into practice; and asking God’s help helps us to open our hearts to the Lord.  Most likely, when you look at yourself on various issue points, listed above, you may find they actually apply to each of us in one way or another.  What we are focusing on here is a personal look at the fears and issues that we may have.  Then once we know where we stand in relation to what God’s word says, we can ask God’s help to align our hearts with His word.  There are the real issues in our heart that affect our reaching out to others—the Bible encourages us to reach out to others—a brother, sister, or friend in the Lord; and God can and will help us.  That help comes when we obey God’s word and brings His blessings. 

Unfortunately, so many of us are caught up in self focus for various reasons, which hinder our encouraging someone else—However with God’s help, we can overcome a self-focus; and reach out to someone.  It does take a commitment to do so.

After you have taken time to prepare yourself, there are a few other important issues that may relate to standards, should also need to be considered, which will affect our relationship in praying with others.  You might call these “basic standards for being a prayer partner”.  Consider the list below -- are these issues true of yourself?  

  • Trust worthiness—Confidentiality
  • Safe haven—Sensitivity, Confidentiality
  • Are you a mature believer—understanding prayer and God’s Word? 

A word about confidentiality:  The nature of concerns shared in prayer, is often extremely confidential. Confidentiality must be protected.  The protection of confidentiality encourages trust and offers a safe haven. 

It is important to realize that if we make a judgment or criticize what is shared, those judgments and criticism can hinder another person’s sense of trust and ultimately destroy the safe haven, confidentiality, which had been built on trust.  It can create a situation where we put up guards and are not free to receive what God has for us.  Judgment and criticism will block the work of God’s mercy and purpose and can grieve the Holy Spirit.  (See Rom 14 vs 13).

Friends, as God enables you to pray with others, you will discover that you are praying with greater direction and purpose, which will help you encourage your prayer partner as well.  You may also see your Christian walk grow closer to the Lord in the process, especially as you focus to encourage others through prayer; whether directly praying with them; or during your personal time with the Lord, carrying their burden to the Lord on their behalf.  It will help you grow spiritually.  A result in praying-together, would be seen in people growing in their relationship to the Lord.

In conclusion, we encourage you to make a commitment to pray with others, and let God’s Word help you. 

Reflection on this lesson:   

*Why would understanding God’s word be important in praying with someone else?

*Why is it important to look at our personal attitudes before we pray with someone?

*What harm may happen, if we allow gossip to occur?  How does this affect other’s sense of confidentiality? See Prov 11:13 

*What happens to a relationship if prayer is all about ME? 

*Why is it important that we understand God’s truths that are in the Word of God, and have them in our heart?

*Does it help to base our prayer requests on God’s Word?

*Spell the word Joy out.  What could the letters stand for?

J stands for_______

O stands for_______

Y stands for _______

Keeping that order in focus can help us in prayer with others. 

(Answer to Joy:  Jesus, Others, You.  Take note: the third letter of JOY represents You, which comes last.)


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