Why the Challenge to #Reimagine Is Often Resisted

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Why the Challenge to #Reimagine Is Often Resisted

 

From Eric Kouns @ Facebook -

 

A few reflections on the scope and magnitude of the changes in my thinking and perception.

 

Each day I learn more about why people make few dramatic changes in what they believe, irrespective of the evidence, after middle age. To wit, change on this scale always results in loss.

 

Even when the change proves necessary and unavoidable, when we change, we lose something. Invariably. Loss is painful and frightening. It wrecks our equanimity and undermines our security.

 

We don’t like to lose, so we resist change. The more the potential change touches on areas of fundamental belief, philosophical foundations, or metaphysical assumptions, the greater the sense of loss that accompanies it.

 

In my case, doubts about the integrity and consistency of some of my foundational presuppositions required me to examine, and ultimately to reject, beliefs based upon those underlying assumptions.

 

Letting go of long-held beliefs and assumptions once considered essential is difficult, at best. The accompanying sense of loss, isolation, and loneliness can be devastating.

 

And the loss is not merely emotional. It can be physical and material as well.

 

In my case, the loss resulting from changes in my worldview included a job, a career, friendships, family relationships, and the prospects and provisions—emotional, psychological, and financial—for a reasonably secure retirement.

 

The whole experience can be exhausting and depressing, leading to disillusionment, cynicism, and skepticism. That's why, for most folks, it is just easier and less complicated not to change.

 

I'm learning that growing older often yields diminished curiosity, the fear of doubt, and the need for certainty and security. While that is lamentable, it is also completely understandable.

 

To throw off a lifetime’s accumulation of assumptions and beliefs takes fortitude and a willingness to endure loss. It has to be sustained by the confidence that the decision to change represents integrity, intellectual honesty, and the prospect of mental and spiritual serenity.

 

Is it worth it? Materially, no. Psychologically and emotionally, it's a struggle at times. But in terms of personal integrity and peace of mind, most definitely.

 

Peace and all good.