Making Friends but Not Disciples (Here's How to Avoid It)
Something is amiss when we can “get to know” people well over a period of months and never talk about Jesus.

The term “evangelism” gives many Christians the willies. We immediately think of canned presentations that seem stiff and unnatural. We are paralyzed by the thought of knocking on a stranger’s door and talking about Jesus.

In response to these images of evangelism, we promote the idea of “building relationships” before sharing the gospel. We call it friendship or relational evangelism.

I think this development is (overall) a healthy one. We don’t share the gospel apart from who we are as witnesses. The most effective evangelism takes place within the context of relationships where the life of the Christian is on display.

But sometimes, I wonder if our emphasis on relationships might cause us to turn all our focus to relationship-building and indefinitely postpone gospel proclamation. So someone asks you, “Are you sharing the gospel regularly?” and you think, Of course! I’m building a relationship with an employee at a coffee shop; I’ve got a friend who watches football with me; I’m getting to know the parents in my child’s preschool class.

Weeks and months (maybe even years) go by, and we’ve made friends, but no disciples. We still haven’t spoken about our Christian faith and what it means to trust in Jesus.

It’s true that effective evangelism usually takes place after trustworthy relationships have been built. But something is amiss when we can “get to know” people well over a period of months and never talk about Jesus. [more>>>]

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  • I agree  completely.  I've retired  from  any job, and it is hard to met someone  that  is even  interested in any

    talk about spiritual  relationships.  I miss going to work  and talking to anyone  regularly.   The church we go to has  a

    core group  doing a ministry with the youth, and that is all .

      I'm with faith am in the process   of  starting  small  groups up in September, so  I pray that  God  blesses us in that

    way .We are friends, so now  I  pray we  will grow in  Christ. 

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